When Your Friend Succeeds, But You Fail – The Silent Struggle .

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Every individual wants a loyal, understanding friend—someone to share frustrations, happy moments, and struggles with. We dream of succeeding together, of ringing the bell of success side by side. We study together, prepare together, and give our exams together.

But what happens when results day arrives? When you check your friend’s result first, and they’ve made it—you’re genuinely happy for them. But then, you check yours… and your name isn’t on the list. The world stops for a second. There are no words to describe that feeling—happiness for them, but shock, heartbreak, and fear for yourself.

This is the silent struggle of every middle-class aspirant who faces failure while watching their peers succeed.

1. The Unspoken Pain of Failure

When failure hits, it’s not just about you. It’s about your family’s reaction, society’s judgment, and your own self-doubt. You immediately start preparing for the questions:

  • “What will I tell my parents?”

  • “How will I face my relatives?”

  • “Will my friends see me as a loser now?”

No one truly understands the internal battle that begins that day.

2. Watching Your Friends Move Ahead – A Fire or a Curse?

A true friend never feels frustrated when their friend succeeds. Instead, it fuels the fire inside to push harder.

But when you try to move forward, life throws obstacles at you:
 Financial instability
 Lack of resources
 No support from family

If your family stands by you, you can face anything. But what if they don’t?

3. The Isolation After Failure

On a normal day, you feel mature, understanding, and hopeful. But the day failure hits? You become your own worst enemy.

  • You avoid people.

  • You ignore messages.

  • You cancel meet-ups.

  • You just want peace and silence.

Not because you hate your friends. But because you hate what failure has made you feel about yourself.

4. The Worst Part? Family Comparisons.

Every middle-class aspirant works day and night, not just for themselves, but to give their family a better life. Yet, when they fail, the same family that they struggle for doesn’t see their hard work—only the result.

And then comes the worst moment:
“Tum dono toh dost the na? Woh kaise nikal gaya aur tum nahi?”
“Tumse dhyan nahi diya hoga, warna ho jaata.”

That moment, that one sentence, makes you feel completely alone.

5. The Turning Point – From Pain to Power

Failure is painful. It shakes you. It breaks you. But it cannot define you. At some point, you realize:

  • Crying won’t change your result.

  • Overthinking won’t bring back lost time.

  • Your family’s taunts won’t decide your future.

That’s the day you stand up, take a deep breath, and say:

“Ek din mai nahi hoga ? Ek din zaroor hoga.” 

That’s the moment you stop asking ‘why me?’ and start saying ‘watch me.’

 

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